User blog:DragonMarquise/Other Interesting Identities in the LGBTQIA+ Community

This little blog post is to help showcase identities in the LGBTQIA+ community that may not exactly have enough info or usage to warrant a full page, but for one reason or another they mean a lot to me and/or my friends. There could be enough sources to have them be subsections in existing pages, but that will have to take some extra research. Plus, who knows, maybe this will help people figure things out about themselves!

To help prevent hosting images on this wiki that probably won't be used in an article anytime soon, I won't upload any flags mentioned here. However, I will be making sure to provide sources, and especially archive links. Probably won't put them in the formal cite templates, just links. So if an identity interests you, please check out the sources for more info, especially to see the full flag!

I will probably add onto this blog post with more identities over time.

Bambi Lesbian
A bambi lesbian is basically a lesbian who is more interested in physical acts such as hugs and kisses over sex. The overall term "bambisexual" (specifically written as "BAMBI-SEXUALITY. Physical interaction centered more about touching, kissing, and caressing than around genital sexuality." ) was featured in the book "The Alyson Almanac" in the 1990s. I bet that book would be a great source for this wiki, if it isn't already being used. But I digress!

The modern usage, particularly as the term "bambi lesbian" was on Urban Dictionary in 2016. Also note that while there is more of a focus on physical intimacy besides anything sexual, not all bambi lesbians are ace! I had assumed that was the case, but it turns out it isn't an exclusive lesbian label like that.

A flag for bambi lesbians was created by Tumblr use wuvsbian on March 8th, 2018. A flag specifically for ace bambi lesbians was created by Tumblr user femmeflags. The original blog is locked so I can't find the original date, but a reblog of the post shows it was available online at least from February 17th, 2020. The ace bambi lesbian flag hasn't moved out of Tumblr as far as I know, but I still think it's a cute flag. And the original is of course very cute too, and I've definitely seen it spread to other sites!

Related to bambi lesbians, some websites have tried to list "sexuality specific alternatives", such as squirrel bi and fox pan. Basically people are mistaking the "bambi" part to be a lesbian-specific term. Honestly, I feel like this is probably unnecessary? The original bambi-sexuality from The Alyson Almanac doesn't even mention lesbians specifically! So I think bambi as a prefix (or I guess just an add-on?) should be considered open to the whole community.

T4T
T4T is short for "Trans For Trans", meaning trans people that are either exclusive attracted to other trans people, or trans people who have a preference for other trans people. The reasons for this can vary, such as that some people are just like this, or otherwise some trans people may prefer to be in relationships with other trans people so that they can find each other more relatable in terms of life experiences. Note that the actual sexuality of a T4T trans person can be anything: gay, bi, pan, etc.

T4T as a concept has apparently been around for a long time, but the T4T term itself was coined on Craigslist in the early 2000s. A flag for T4T, alternatively called TLT (trans loving trans, as a reflection of wlw and mlm) at this point, was created on Tumblr by beyond-mogai-pride-flags on May 31st, 2018. Other alternative flags have been made since then, but there have been various controversies and callouts related to those flags and their creators. As far as I know, the original is still the most widely used and least controversal of the T4T flags.

A friend of mine and his girlfriend are both T4T, and they were the ones who taught me about this label in the first place!

Blue Jean Femme
A blue jean femme is a femme or feminine person (usually lesbian from what I understand) who dresses in more casual clothes like jeans and shirts, instead of skirts and dresses, hence the name. A few friends of mine also define it as something like "not 100% feminine but still leaning more towards femme than butch", but admittedly I don't think I've seen a source that specifically describes it like that, just focusing on the what they wear part.

Soft Butch
A soft butch is a butch person (usually lesbian from what I've seen/heard) who may not be 100% masculine but still leans more towards butch than femme. Depending on the definition, you could see it as a counterpart to blue jean femme, sort of analogous to femme and butch being counterparts in a way.

Personally, I used to think I was a blue jean femme, until I realized I more aligned with soft butch.

Buck
Buck as an LGBTQIA+ term usually means "a gay, dashing young fellow; a fop; a dandy". For those who don't know, dandy in particular refers to men who focus on maintaining a good fashion style/appearance, being neat, and having good manners. Buck is basically meant to be a version of dandy specifically for LGBTQIA+ men, especially gay or mlm men from what I've been told.

There is an alternative meaning that basically just means "male prostitute", but this is considered a very negative usage of the term.

A friend of mine identifies as a buck in the dandy sense, and he's become frustrated that the more negative definition is the one that most people know about. So I figured I would help him out and share the dandy version of the term!